• Alzheimer's Disease Hotline: 800-272-3900

• Autism Society: 800-328-8476

• Champaign County Health Department:

• Child Abuse Hotline: 800-252-2873

• Elder Abuse & Neglect Hotline: 800-252-8966

• Emergency Services: 9-1-1

• GriefShare (free daily emails that help with grief):

• McLean County Health Department:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

• PATH Crisis Hotline: 888-865-9903 or 211

• Suicide Hotline: 800-273-8255 (Online Chat)

• Parenting:

• Boundaries:


Therapist Recommended Books

Better Than My Dreams, Paula Rinehart
The Body Keeps the Score, Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D.
Boundaries, Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
Child of Divorce, Child of God, Kristin Steakley
Codependent No More, Melody Beattie
The DNA of Relationships for Couples, Paul Smalley
Every Young Man’s Battle, Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoker & Mike Yorkey
For Men Only, Shaunti & Jeff Feldhahn
For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn
How We Love, Milan & Kay Yerkovich
Loosening Your Grip, Harold Shank (Currently Out of Print- Available on Amazon)
The Meaning of Marriage, Timothy & Kathy Keller
One Thousand Gifts, Ann Voskamp
Prodigal God, Timothy Keller
The Road Back to You, Ian Morgan Cron & Suzanne Stabile
Sex and the Soul of a Woman, Paula Rinehart
The Smart Stepfamily, Ron L. Deal
Torn Asunder, Dave Carder
Trusting God Through Tears, Jehu Burton
Wild at Heart, John Eldredge

Stress, Anxiety or Worry, How to Identify Which it is Without Counseling.

by Patti Ecker, MAC, LCPC

Although we often tend to use the words stress, anxiety and worry interchangeably, and often manage them in much the same way, they really aren’t the same experience.

Defined simply, stress is our reaction to change. When the change is a positive experience, like getting married or expecting a baby, we call it eustress (pronounced “you-stress”); when the change is negative, like a job loss, we call it distress. Our responses to stress can vary – some people become angry, some become depressed, some withdraw; others worry or experience physical illness; some people even feel energized by stress.

Generally, we know what it is that’s causing us to feel stressed – a deadline at work, a big test coming up, illness in the family, planning a wedding, preparing for out-of-town guests. Likewise, when we’re worried (remember, worry is a common way of coping with stress), we generally know what we’re worried about. In other words, both stress and worry have external causes. Since we can name what has us stressed or worried, these tend to lead us toward solutions to our problem.

Anxiety is different. When an individual reports feeling anxious, they usually talk about physical symptoms – shortness of breath, rapid heartbeat, shaking or trembling, sweating, tightness in the chest, nausea, chills or hot flashes, fear of losing control. So anxiety actually is more about the experience of these body sensations than it is about what’s making you anxious. In fact, there’s a good chance you don’t know what’s at the root of your anxiety. And that makes for more anxious feelings.

We all feel anxious, worried or stressed sometimes, and these get in the way of experiencing the abundant life that we were created to enjoy. Reading Scripture, relaxation, meditation, mindfulness exercises, changing your self-talk, guided imagery, monitoring your thoughts – these are among the ways you can manage your anxiety or stress or worry. Ask your therapist for suggestions for your personal situation.